Got a love/hate relationship with food and body? Read on...
I used to think that my body defined who I was. If I was in super control, and was able to restrict the amount I ate, then I was superior, untouchable, and people would like me more--I would be worthy. On the flip side, if I strayed from my strict regimen, or even worse--went on a binge--then I saw myself as fat, less than, out of control, and unworthy.
I used to cycle through those endless loops of restrict and binge--or worth and unworthy-- for years and years. Anorexic, bulimic, orthorexic, body dismorphic were titles that I was given, and how I identified myself.
It wasn't until I took a true look at what I was hiding from and what I was grasping for that helped me to start my journey to self-love.
I'm not a psychologist, so we're not going to dredge up the past and have you relive all of your trauma (though we may touch upon those things); rather, we are going to see how your current eating style may be indicative of other areas in your life that may have you restricting or reaching for food as a coping mechanism. We turn to food and substances to change the way we feel, right? Looking at your eating behaviors can be the key to making the changes that can help you transform.
I am dedicated to helping you make peace with your body and your personal struggle around eating. Different areas I work with clients are: chronic dieting, binge eating, over eating, body image, mindful eating, finding pleasure in food, and more.
Melissa’s 5 Ultimate Beliefs
1. Celebrate your uniqueness!
“Today you are You, that is truer than true. There is no one alive who is Youer than You.”
— Dr. Seuss, Happy Birthday to You!
There is no one-size-fits-all diet or way of eating. Together we will discover a way of eating and lifestyle that will work for you.
2. You don’t need to be fixed!
Though you may feel broken and used by the confusion driven upon us by the weight loss and health industries, there is nothing innately wrong with who you are. You are much more than just your body.
When you can let go of the negative belief that you are somehow flawed because of how you look or how you eat, you make space for real nourishment and a more efficient metabolism.
3. Pleasure is a must!
It is time to stop seeing food as the enemy and something to be in fear of. Does seeing a cookie start a war in your mind? It is time to stop the nonsense!
I will help teach you how to relax around food, and to start incorporating Vitamin P–pleasure!! Pleasure is something our bodies are wired for, and not to be limited to for a special occasion, but to be built into our daily lives. Pleasure can help us
to shift our old patterns of anxiety around food into new patterns of healing.
4. Listen to your body wisdom!
Our bodies house everything we need to be our highest selves.
We have become so accustomed to listening to others beliefs about what is good for our bodies, that we have stopped listening to our truest guide for what is good for us–our body wisdom.
Trusting our body wisdom is essential for real nourishment and transformation around food and weight.
5. Spread the Love!
When we show others that we care for and love our bodies, we will help inspire others to do the same.
Body Image is a collective issue, and Body Love Now is committed to helping change the consciousness of Body Image to a positive one.
We have spent far too long living in fear of food, and thinking that we can hate our bodies into lasting change.